When you were a kid, did you want to grow up to be an
astronaut, a singer or an engineer? If so, how’s that working out for you?
Hopefully, it’s going great and you are living the life of your dreams. But for
the rest of you who are not, here are 13 signs that you might be wasting your
life… but you don’t want to admit it:
1. You spend too much time doing things you shouldn’t
be doing.
Video games.
Reality TV. Surfing the ‘net. Stuffing your face with too much food. Drinking
too much. And the list goes on. Take a serious look at your life. Where are you
spending the majority of your time? And does it serve you well? Is it leading
to a better life? Is it laying the foundation for a bright future? If not, then
you need to reevaluate your routine activities and make changes.
2. You find yourself complaining a lot.
I know people who
are constantly overwhelmed with life, and they never cease to tell me. Are you
one of those people? Do you complain about your job, your boss, your salary,
your neighbors or your spouse? If you do, then you are doing nothing but
exuding negative energy. Negativity doesn’t
change things. It keeps you stuck. So change your thoughts and talk about what
you appreciate about your life, not what you don’t like.
3. You don’t feed your mind.
If you’re not
continually growing and learning as a person, then you are stagnant – just like
a still pond that doesn’t move and grows green gunk on it. That’s what your
mind does if you don’t keep it active and learn new things. Positive challenges
in your life will expand your mind, not send it backwards.
4. You have a lot of negative self-talk.
Self-talk can make
or break your life. As Henry Ford said, “Whether you think you can, or think
you can’t… either way, you’re right.” If you tell yourself that you’re not
smart enough to get that promotion or start a business, then you’re right. If
you tell yourself you’re too exhausted to put effort into changing your life,
then you’re right. Whatever you tell yourself becomes your reality. So closely
monitor what you say to yourself, because you will find that your life matches
your thoughts.
5. You feel uninspired.
Do you have a
passion for anything? I know a lot of people who think they don’t have a
passion. But that’s never the case. There has to be
something that you enjoy doing. So you need to rediscover what excites you, and
then do more of it.
6. You don’t plan for your future.
While it’s always
great to live in the “now” and “be in the moment,” sometimes you need to look
ahead to see where you want to go. If you don’t have a goal or a plan, then you
are like a boat that is wandering aimlessly in the ocean hoping to end up
somewhere good. But you can’t do that. You have to make a step-by-step guide to
get where you want to go. Just like a GPS gets
you to a destination, you need your own inner GPS to guide you.
7. You spend too much time with people who don’t
contribute to your growth.
It’s easy to get
stuck hanging out with people who are not making you feel like a better person.
But if you keep doing that, then you will stay stagnant or get pulled down with
them. I like to call them “Energy Vampires.”
They suck the life out of you and give you nothing positive in return. Instead,
go find growth-oriented people to be around.
8. You’re addicted to your phone.
Sure, cell phones
are super cool gadgets that can leave us entranced when we use them. While
that’s fun, think about all the time you are wasting with your phone. Even
worse, think about all the relationships that might be affected. Maybe you’re
texting or searching the internet while you’re having dinner with your spouse
or kids. If you are, you’re missing out on meaningful time you can spend with
your loved ones – or time you could devote to making a plan for your future.
9. You spend money on things that don’t matter.
There is a
difference between a “need” and a “want.” I’m sure we all learned that in
kindergarten. However, in today’s society, we have blurred the lines quite a
bit (see #8… the cell phone). In fact, I know people who can’t pay their
mortgage, but still have the fanciest gadgets on the planet. If you stop to
think about it, there is very little that we actually need. Food, water,
shelter and love are some of those things. All the rest are just bonuses. So
look at what you’re spending your money on and see if you can make adjustments.
Maybe you can use the money you save to invest in your future.
10. You don’t get enough sleep.
I’m not a medical
doctor, but I have read enough books to know how vitally important sleep is. I
could write 20 pages on it. But I obviously don’t have enough room in this
short article. Sleep is crucial for good health. If you’re too busy to get
enough sleep or if you simply have a bad habit of staying up until the wee
hours of the morning, you should re-evaluate your habits.
11. You’re not taking care of your body.
Not only is sleep
essential to your health, so is food and exercise. I know I’m not telling you
anything you don’t already know. But eating a balanced, healthy diet and moving
your body around truly does have more positive effects other than weight loss.
It affects your mental attitude and overall well-being. So take a look at your
diet and level of activity. You might find that making a few small changes will
greatly improve your life.
12. You don’t leave your comfort zone.
I know how easy it
is to live in a comfort zone. In fact, when I go to a familiar restaurant, I
always order the same thing. Not because I’m afraid to try something new, but
because I like the food I normally order. But that’s not the kind of comfort
zone I’m talking about. I’m talking about taking a risk that will improve your
life. And keep in mind, there is a difference
between a “risk” and a “calculated risk.” Any risk has the possibility to be
deadly, but a calculated risk is one in which you’ve weighed all options and
thus come up with a good, sensible plan of action.
13. You’re living a life you don’t like.
The way I measure
success is by someone’s level of happiness. Are you happy? If not, then you
should change something! Even a feeling of contentment or satisfaction doesn’t
tell you that you’re living life to the fullest. Life should be exciting! So if
you’re not enjoying life, take a look at some of the changes you can make to
get you to a better place.
If any of these 13 points sounded like you, don’t
despair. You can make changes. But the first change you need to make is getting
rid of the idea that you can’t do it. Many times, your
biggest obstacle is your own thought process. So start there. Change your
thinking – then change your life!
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