Highlander: abril 2015

terça-feira, 28 de abril de 2015

domingo, 26 de abril de 2015

How to eliminate drama in your live

Most people like to keep drama at a minimum in their lives, but sometimes it’s not so easy. During stressful times or when dealing with certain people, you might find drama popping up more than you’d like.

Maybe you’re at a breaking point, and you’re ready to finally eliminate the drama from your life once and for all. Keep in mind that it’s nearly impossible to eliminate it all together, but there are certain strategies you can follow to keep it to a minimum.

Consider adding the following strategies to your drama elimination methods:

1. Keep to yourself whenever possible.

It’s often best to adopt a “mind your own business” attitude when you’re dealing with other people. When you snoop around in someone’s business, you really never know what can of worms you’re opening. If someone asks or invites you into their life, that’s one thing, but you should avoid the urge to pry.

2. Avoid participating in gossip.

Humans are social creatures and they tend to talk about each other. Sometimes you might think that your gossip is good news, so it’s okay, but you never know how someone else might spin what you’re saying. It’s best to avoid it whenever possible.

If you have issues with someone, have a conversation directly with them. Then they’ll know how you feel without hearing a version of the story from someone else.

3. Make efforts to stop gossip.

You’ll no doubt be in situations where you’re not participating in it, but you’re hearing other people gossip. It’s difficult to go against the crowd and take a stand, but you must if you’re serious about eliminating drama.

You can choose to be silent and that way you won’t be held accountable, but you can also politely say that maybe the subject at hand should be changed to something else.

4. Be open, but cautious when meeting new people.

Of course you want to be friendly and inviting when you’re meeting people and making new friends. However, keep your guard up to some extent because you really never know a person right at the outset.

Before sharing personal opinions, ensure you know someone well enough to prevent misunderstandings.

5. Analyze past dramatic situations.

Think about the scenarios that led to drama for you in the past. Was it a simple misunderstanding? Is there a topic that always leads to drama and arguments? You can definitely learn from past situations that transpired negatively. Reflection can help you avoid those similar situations in the future.

6. Learn how to release your emotions in a healthy way.

Drama can lead you to feel some strong emotions. Even if you’re trying to eliminate drama, you can’t just avoid everything that you’re feeling. It can lead to more upset outbursts, since you’re just bottling up those strong emotions. Instead, learn positive ways to release your emotions.

If you’re starting to feel upset because things are getting heated, remove yourself from the situation. Grab some fresh air and return to the situation once you’ve found a cool head.
Exercising is a great way to release emotions and pent-up stress.
Daily relaxation is also important. Do something that you enjoy each day just for you!
Remember that some people just love drama, and they might be trying to stir some up for you. Refuse to participate in their game. You can choose what you want to allow into your life.

terça-feira, 21 de abril de 2015

Ficar com medo de cometer algum

Sempre existirá sol

não é saber o alfabeto

Não vale empancar

Acorde com...

domingo, 19 de abril de 2015

O presente dos insultos

Perto de Tokyo vivia um grande samurai, já idoso, que agora se dedicava a ensinar o zen

budismo aos jovens. Apesar de sua idade, corria a lenda de que ainda era capaz de derrotar qualquer

adversário.

Certa tarde, um guerreiro - conhecido por sua total falta de escrúpulos - apareceu por ali.

Era famoso por utilizar a técnica da provocação:

esperava que seu adversário fizesse o primeiro movimento e, dotado de uma inteligência privilegiada para reparar os erros cometidos, contra atacava com velocidade fulminante.

O jovem e impaciente guerreiro jamais havia perdido uma luta. Conhecendo a reputação

do samurai, estava ali para derrota-lo, e aumentar sua fama.

Todos os estudantes se manifestaram contra a ideia, mas o velho aceitou o desafio.

Foram todos para a praça da cidade, e o jovem começou a insultar o velho mestre. Chutou

algumas pedras em sua direçao, cuspiu em seu rosto, gritou todos os insultos conhecidos - ofendendo inclusive seus ancestrais. Durante horas fez tudo para provoca-lo, mas o velho permaneceu impassível. No final da tarde, sentindo-se já exausto e humilhado, o impetuoso guerreiro retirou-se.

Desapontados pelo fato de que o mestre aceitara tantos insultos e provocações, os alunos

perguntaram:

- Como o senhor pode suportar tanta indignidade? Por que não usou sua espada, mesmo sabendo que podia perder a luta, ao invés de mostrar-se covarde diante de todos nós?

- Se alguém chega até você com um presente, e você não o aceita, a quem pertence o presente?

- perguntou o samurai.

- A quem tentou entrega-lo - respondeu um dos discípulos.

- O mesmo vale para a inveja, a raiva, e os insultos - disse o mestre.

- Quando não são aceites, continuam pertencendo a quem os carregava consigo.

Paulo Coelho - Guerreiros da Luz (Vol. 2)

sábado, 18 de abril de 2015

Fica eterno

equally unique

Ontem e amanhã

Sorry means nothing

Pelo que eu falo

sexta-feira, 17 de abril de 2015

Kung-Fu TV Show Compilation: Wise Sayings

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0_J4TRYxpmU

quarta-feira, 15 de abril de 2015

Be notorious.

Has to be empty

It is liberating.

To begin it.

As it is.

terça-feira, 14 de abril de 2015

16 Habits Of Highly Sensitive People

Do you feel like you reflect on things more than everyone else? Do you find yourself worrying about how other people feel? Do you prefer quieter, less chaotic environments?

If the above sound true to you, you may be highly sensitive. The personality trait — which was first researched by Elaine N. Aron, Ph.D., in the early 1990s — is relatively common, with as many as one in five people possessing it. Aron, who has written multiple studies and books on high sensitivity, including The Highly Sensitive Person, also developed a self-test (which you can take here) to help you determine if you are highly sensitive.

While recent interest in introversion — driven largely by high-profile publications on the subject, including Susan Cain’s book “Quiet,” — has brought more awareness to personality traits that value less stimulation and higher sensitivity, Aron notes that highly sensitive people still tend to be considered the “minority.”

But “minority” doesn’t mean bad — in fact, being highly sensitive carries a multitude of positive characteristics. Read on for some of the commonalities shared by highly sensitive people.

1. They feel more deeply.

One of the hallmark characteristics of highly sensitive people is the ability to feel more deeply than their less-sensitive peers. “They like to process things on a deep level,” Ted Zeff, Ph.D., author of The Highly Sensitive Person’s Survival Guide and other books on highly sensitive people, tells HuffPost. “They’re very intuitive, and go very deep inside to try to figure things out.”

2. They’re more emotionally reactive.

People who are highly sensitive will react more in a situation. For instance, they will have more empathy and feel more concern for a friend’s problems, according to Aron. They may also have more concern about how another person may be reacting in the face of a negative event.

3. They’re probably used to hearing, “Don’t take things so personally” and “Why are you so sensitive?”

Depending on the culture, sensitivity can be perceived as an asset or a negative trait, Zeff explains. In some of his own research, Zeff says that highly sensitive men he interviewed from other countries — such as Thailand and India — were rarely or never teased, while highly sensitive men he interviewed from North America were frequently or always teased. “So a lot of it is very cultural — the same person who is told, ‘Oh, you’re too sensitive,’ in certain cultures, it’s considered an asset,” he says.

4. They prefer to exercise solo.

Highly sensitive people may tend to avoid team sports, where there’s a sense that everyone is watching their every move, Zeff says. In his research, the majority of highly sensitive people he interviewed preferred individual sports, like bicycling, running and hiking, to group sports. However, this is not a blanket rule — there are some highly sensitive people who may have had parents who provided an understanding and supportive environment that would make it easier for them to participate in group sports, Zeff says.

5. It takes longer for them to make decisions.

Highly sensitive people are more aware of subtleties and details that could make decisions harder to make, Aron says. Even if there is no “right” or “wrong” decision — for example, it’s impossible to choose a “wrong” flavor of ice cream — highly sensitive people will still tend to take longer to choose because they are weighing every possible outcome. Aron’s advice for dealing with this: “Take as long to decide as the situation permits, and ask for more time if you need it and can take it,” she writes in a recent issue of her Comfort Zone newsletter. “During this time, try pretending for a minute, hour, day, or even week that you have made up your mind a certain way. How does that feel? Often, on the other side of a decision things look different, and this gives you a chance to imagine more vividly that you are already there.” One exception: Once a highly sensitive person has come to the conclusion of what is the right decision to make and what is the wrong decision to make in a certain situation, he or she will be quick to make that “right” decision again in the future.

6. And on that note, they are more upset if they make a “bad” or “wrong” decision.

You know that uncomfortable feeling you get after you realize you’ve made a bad decision? For highly sensitive people, “that emotion is amplified because the emotional reactivity is higher,” Aron explains.

7. They’re extremely detail-oriented.

Highly sensitive people are the first ones to notice the details in a room, the new shoes that you’re wearing, or a change in weather.

8. Not all highly sensitive people are introverts.

In fact, about 30 percent of highly sensitive people are extroverts, according to Aron. She explains that many times, highly sensitive people who are also extroverts grew up in a close-knit community — whether it be a cul-de-sac, small town, or with a parent who worked as a minister or rabbi — and thus would interact with a lot of people.

Related: Top 10 Introvert Myths

9. They work well in team environments.

Because highly sensitive people are such deep thinkers, they make valuable workers and members of teams, Aron says. However, they may be well-suited for positions in teams where they don’t have to make the final decision. For instance, if a highly sensitive person was part of a medical team, he or she would be valuable in analyzing the pros and cons of a patient having surgery, while someone else would ultimately make the decision about whether that patient would receive the surgery.

10. They’re more prone to anxiety or depression (but only if they’ve had a lot of past negative experiences).

“If you’ve had a fair number of bad experiences, especially early in life, so you don’t feel safe in the world or you don’t feel secure at home or … at school, your nervous system is set to ‘anxious,’” Aron says. But that’s not to say that all highly sensitive people will go on to have anxiety — and in fact, having a supportive environment can go a long way to protecting against this. Parents of highly sensitive children, in particular, need to “realize these are really great kids, but they need to be handled in the right way,” Aron says. “You can’t over-protect them, but you can’t under-protect them, either. You have to titrate that just right when they’re young so they can feel confident and they can do fine.”

11. That annoying sound is probably significantly more annoying to a highly sensitive person.

While it’s hard to say anyone is a fan of annoying noises, highly sensitive people are on a whole more, well, sensitive to chaos and noise. That’s because they tend to be more easily overwhelmed and overstimulated by too much activity, Aron says.

12. Violent movies are the worst.

Because highly sensitive people are so high in empathy and more easily overstimulated, movies with violence or horror themes may not be their cup of tea, Aron says.

13. They cry more easily.

That’s why it’s important for highly sensitive people to put themselves in situations where they won’t be made to feel embarrassed or “wrong” for crying easily, Zeff says. If their friends and family realize that that’s just how they are — that they cry easily — and support that form of expression, then “crying easily” will not be seen as something shameful.

14. They have above-average manners.

Highly sensitive people are also highly conscientious people, Aron says. Because of this, they’re more likely to be considerate and exhibit good manners — and are also more likely to notice when someone else isn’t being conscientious. For instance, highly sensitive people may be more aware of where their cart is at the grocery store — not because they’re afraid someone will steal something out of it, but because they don’t want to be rude and have their cart blocking another person’s way.

15. The effects of criticism are especially amplified in highly sensitive people.

Highly sensitive people have reactions to criticism that are more intense than less sensitive people. As a result, they may employ certain tactics to avoid said criticism, including people-pleasing (so that there is no longer anything to criticize), criticizing themselves first, and avoiding the source of the criticism altogether, according to Aron.

“People can say something negative, [and] a non-HSP [highly sensitive person] can say, ‘Whatever,’ and it doesn’t affect them,” Zeff says. “But a HSP would feel it much more deeply.”

16. Cubicles = good. Open-office plans = bad.

Just like highly sensitive people tend to prefer solo workouts, they may also prefer solo work environments. Zeff says that many highly sensitive people enjoy working from home or being self-employed because they can control the stimuli in their work environments. For those without the luxury of creating their own flexible work schedules (and environments), Zeff notes that highly sensitive people might enjoy working in a cubicle — where they have more privacy and less noise — than in an open-office plan.

By Amanda L. Chan

sábado, 11 de abril de 2015

É aí onde a jornada começa.

Future

Não existe "fora"

No chão da sua casa

Evite

sexta-feira, 10 de abril de 2015

Buda (Siddhartha Gautama)

Buda (Siddhartha Gautama), o “escolhido/aquele que despertou de um sono profundo”, aquele que possui o esclarecimento espiritual, foi um mestre que revelou a doutrina budista e seus ensinamentos. Note que, o nome Buda, significa “desperto” e portanto, não compreende somente o profeta fundador, mas um título da filosofia budista para indicar pessoas iluminadas com avançado esclarecimento espiritual. Nesse sentido, a filosofia budista possui muitos budas, entretanto, Siddhartha Gautama é o mais conhecido, o fundador da filosofia budista.Os budistas são acusados de ateísmo, na realidade não pronunciam a palavra Deus porque sabem Deus está em cada um de nós, está em tudo e em todos… Tudo é Deus. Deus não se encontra numa possibilidade externa, mas na possibilidade do interno de cada um de nó, por ser tudo isto segundo a concepção de cada praticante. Pode ser uma Filosofia de Vida de emprego bem prático que não impede que você professe outra religião ou credo, muito pelo contrário nos dá condições através das quatro nobres verdades, do nobre caminho óctuplo, da compreensão sobre os doze elos e outros meios hábeis que mais tarde discorreremos em outros artigos, de sermos melhores cidadãos, melhores profissionais, melhores homens e mulheres. O budismo nos ensina a tarefa de sermos responsáveis sem culpa...

PS:

Os budistas celebram em 8 de abril o nascimento do Buda Histórico Buda Sakyamuni (Príncipe Sidarta Gautama) que há aproximados 565 A.C. nascia na Índia antiga.

SIGAM --> ( Instagram @budismoficial )